Therapy for Anxiety & Perfectionism
When your brain won’t stop running, even when you’re exhausted.
Therapy for anxiety, perfectionism, and overthinking when you’re tired of second-guessing yourself, anticipating what could go wrong, and feeling like you’re never doing enough - in Huntington, NY, or virtually across NY and FL.
You look like you have it all handled. Your nervous system might disagree.
You’re the one who remembers everything, anticipates every possible problem, and somehow always manages to get it done. You’re capable, responsible, and probably the person other people rely on. From the outside, you look like you have it together. But inside, your brain rarely gets a day off.
You’re replaying conversations, running through worst-case scenarios, thinking three steps ahead, and wondering why you can’t just relax like everyone else. Even when nothing is wrong, part of you is waiting for something to go wrong.
Maybe your anxiety doesn’t look like panic. Maybe it looks like overpreparing, perfectionism, staying busy, checking and rechecking, needing things to feel “just right,” or constantly trying to anticipate what everyone else might need. You may have become so good at holding everything together that slowing down feels uncomfortable—or even unsafe.
Rest can bring up guilt. Not knowing can feel unbearable.
And letting go of control may feel like asking yourself to stop doing the very things that have helped you feel secure.
You may even wonder, Why am I so anxious when my life is objectively fine? The truth is, anxiety isn’t always about what’s happening around you. Sometimes it’s about what your mind and nervous system have learned to do in order to keep you prepared, productive, and protected.
Anxiety therapy can help you understand what’s underneath that constant sense of urgency - not just teach you how to manage the symptoms. Together, we’ll explore the patterns that keep you stuck in overthinking, perfectionism, and hypervigilance, while building a greater sense of safety and trust within yourself. The goal isn’t to stop caring or become someone who never worries. It’s to have more space to pause, breathe, rest, and move through life without feeling like you always have to be one step ahead.
How Anxiety & Perfectionism Therapy Helps
Before therapy, you may feel…
- Like your brain is always ten steps ahead, preparing for what could go wrong.
- Exhausted from overthinking, overplanning, and second-guessing yourself.
- Like you can’t fully relax because there’s always something else to worry about.
- Like it’s your job to anticipate everyone’s needs and keep everything under control.
- Physically tense, restless, or constantly “on,” even when there’s no immediate reason to be.
- Frustrated that you know you’re probably overthinking, but you can’t seem to turn your mind off.
With therapy, you can begin to…
- Notice anxious thoughts without automatically following every “what if” down the rabbit hole.
- Understand the patterns underneath your anxiety, perfectionism, and need for control.
- Feel more comfortable with uncertainty without needing to prepare for every possible outcome.
- Slow down, rest, and make space for yourself without feeling guilty or like you should be doing more.
- Feel more grounded in the present rather than constantly anticipating what might happen next.
- Build greater trust in yourself and your ability to handle whatever comes - even when you don’t have everything figured out.
Therapy for Anxiety & Perfectionism
Anxiety therapy isn’t about learning to live with an endlessly busy mind or collecting more coping skills to add to your already-full plate. We’ll slow things down and get curious about what’s driving the anxiety - and what your mind and nervous system may be trying to protect you from. Together, we’ll explore the patterns underneath the overthinking, perfectionism, and need for control while building more flexibility, self-trust, and emotional regulation.
Who it's for
This work is for you if you’re the capable one who looks like you have it together but feels exhausted from being “on” all the time. Maybe you overthink everything, struggle to relax, constantly anticipate what could go wrong, hold yourself to impossibly high standards, or feel like you need to keep everything under control in order to feel okay.
The Format
Individual therapy sessions, offered in person in Huntington, NY and virtually across NY and FL. Sessions are typically 60 minutes, with frequency determined together based on your needs, goals, and the type of work we’re doing.
What you can expect
You’ll have a space where you don’t have to minimize your anxiety or convince yourself that it’s “not that bad.” We’ll work collaboratively to understand your anxiety rather than fight against it, while creating more space to pause, tolerate uncertainty, trust yourself, and respond to life without feeling like you always have to be one step ahead.
The Investment
$200 per 60-minute session
As an out-of-network provider, I don’t bill insurance directly. Depending on your plan, you may be eligible for reimbursement for a portion of your sessions.
Visit Fees & Investment to learn more about how out-of-network benefits work, why I’ve chosen not to participate with insurance panels, and what you can expect when using your benefits.
Ready to quiet the noise?
Is Anxiety & Perfectionism Therapy the Right Fit for You?
You don’t have to be having panic attacks or feel completely overwhelmed for anxiety to be taking up too much space in your life. Sometimes anxiety looks much more subtle: overthinking, overpreparing, perfectionism, people-pleasing, staying busy, or never quite being able to switch off. If you’re tired of feeling like you always have to be one step ahead, this work may be for you.
Probably, if you:
Look calm and capable on the outside but feel constantly “on” underneath.
Spend a lot of time overthinking, anticipating, or preparing for what could go wrong.
Have a hard time relaxing because your brain always finds something else to solve.
Hold yourself to high standards and feel like you’re never quite doing enough.
Want to understand why you feel anxious rather than simply learn how to manage the symptoms.
Are ready to practice trusting yourself and tolerating uncertainty instead of trying to control every possible outcome.
Probably not, if you:
Are looking for a quick fix or a handful of techniques to make anxiety disappear immediately.
Want therapy to focus only on getting rid of uncomfortable feelings without exploring what may be underneath them.
Aren’t open to looking at the patterns, beliefs, and experiences that may be keeping your anxiety going.
Want ongoing reassurance every time your anxiety tells you something is wrong.
Aren’t currently in a place where you can actively participate in the therapeutic process.
You don’t have to stop being a thoughtful, responsible, or driven person.
The goal isn’t to care less or lower your standards. It’s to get to a place where you can use those strengths without anxiety, perfectionism, or the need for control being the ones calling all the shots.
What Working Together Looks Like
Slow Down & Make Sense of It
We’ll start by understanding what your anxiety actually looks like in your life - not just the obvious symptoms, but the thoughts, habits, expectations, and physical reactions underneath them. You’ll begin to understand that your anxiety isn’t random or a personal failure; it’s a pattern that makes sense when we understand what shaped it.
Get Out of the Loop
Together, we’ll identify the patterns that keep anxiety and perfectionism going: overthinking, reassurance-seeking, people-pleasing, self-criticism, avoiding uncertainty, or constantly trying to stay one step ahead. You’ll learn to recognize these patterns without automatically getting pulled into them, creating more choice in how you respond.
Build More Ease & Self-Trust
As you develop a different relationship with your thoughts, feelings, and uncertainty, you’ll have more room to actually live your life instead of constantly preparing for it. The goal isn’t to never feel anxious again - it’s to trust yourself enough to handle uncertainty, make decisions, rest, and move forward without anxiety calling all the shots.
If your anxiety has become so normal that you’re not even sure what “normal” feels like anymore, you’re not alone. Here are some common questions about anxiety therapy and what working together can look like. If you don’t see your question here, feel free to reach out.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need to have panic attacks to have anxiety?
Not at all. Anxiety can look like overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing, constant planning, difficulty relaxing, physical tension, or always feeling like you need to be prepared for what’s next.
What if I’m high-functioning? Can I still have anxiety?
Absolutely. Being successful, responsible, and good at keeping things together doesn’t mean you aren’t struggling internally. Anxiety can sometimes hide behind competence, achievement, and the ability to keep going no matter how overwhelmed you feel.
What does anxiety therapy actually look like?
We’ll explore what your anxiety looks like day to day and get curious about what’s underneath it. Depending on what you need, we may work with your thoughts, body, past experiences, relationships, and the patterns that keep anxiety and perfectionism going.
Will you just teach me breathing exercises and coping skills?
Those tools can have their place, but I don’t want therapy to become another list of things you feel like you have to do perfectly. We’ll also look at why your anxiety is showing up and what keeps you feeling like you always need to be on guard.
Why do I feel anxious when nothing is actually wrong?
Your nervous system doesn’t always respond only to what is happening right now - it can also respond to what it has learned to expect. Together, we can explore why your system may be staying on high alert even when your logical brain knows you’re okay.
Why can’t I just stop overthinking?
What if relaxing actually makes me more anxious?
You’re not weird, and you’re not doing relaxation wrong. If your system is used to being busy, productive, or on alert, slowing down can initially feel uncomfortable. Therapy can help you gradually develop a greater sense of safety with rest and stillness.
Can anxiety therapy help with perfectionism?
Yes. Perfectionism and anxiety often reinforce each other, especially when your sense of safety or self-worth becomes tied to getting things right. We can explore the beliefs, fears, and expectations underneath the need to be perfect and work toward a more flexible relationship with yourself.
Can anxiety therapy help if I feel like I’m never doing enough?
Absolutely. When your sense of worth becomes tied to productivity, achievement, or meeting high expectations, it can be difficult to ever feel finished or “good enough.” Therapy can help you understand where those expectations come from and develop a sense of self-worth that isn’t dependent on how much you accomplish.
Can anxiety therapy help with people-pleasing?
Absolutely. People-pleasing can be closely connected to anxiety about conflict, rejection, disappointing others, or being seen as “too much.” We can work toward honoring your own needs and boundaries without feeling responsible for managing everyone else’s reactions.
Will therapy make my anxiety go away?
The goal isn’t to never feel anxious again—anxiety is a normal human emotion. The goal is to help you understand it, respond to it differently, and build enough trust in yourself that anxiety doesn’t run your life.
Can I do anxiety therapy virtually?
Yes. Virtual therapy is available across NY and FL, in addition to in-person sessions in Huntington, NY.
What if I’m not sure I’m ready for therapy?
You don’t have to have everything figured out before reaching out. We can start with a conversation about what’s been going on and see whether my approach feels like the right fit for you.
No pressure. No need to have it all figured out.
Ready to get out of your head and back into your life?
You don’t have to keep overthinking every decision, preparing for every possible outcome, or waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you’re ready to spend less time managing what might happen and more time actually experiencing your life, let’s talk. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be ready to start exploring what’s keeping you stuck.